"To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable."
The people I choose to love, I love deeply. When reciprocated that love is a wonderful thing. But loving someone who cannot accept that love nor love in return is like a black hole where your deep love continues to get sucked away until you are stripped so bare that you begin to harden by all the negativity, hate and selfishness the world is consumed by.
To love is to be vulnerable. As deeply as I have loved, my heart has been torn, shredded and mutilated beyond recognition. It has been taken and hidden, locked away and thrown in a dark and lonesome basement only to resurface from its captor by the grace of God. But oh, how wonderful is God's grace that after such treatment my heart would ever be able to feel and love once more!
Now I know I must guard my heart and love less freely, even some of those in my closest and innermost circles. But to give up on them and stop loving completely? Never! I must not stop loving those who hate, despise or treat me poorly for they do not know Love and are incapable of anything but hatred and criticism. I shall love them all the same and perhaps those who cannot understand me even more, with the hope that one day they will finally realize what love is and that they themselves will choose to love as well. How I long for that day to come! How I wish that day were today.
- An Adventurous Soul
Friday, January 10, 2014
Thursday, January 9, 2014
Parents are capable of bullying too...
She makes an excellent point, but I would take it one step further- Mocking a child even in the home in front of family or only to their face alone is still bullying and can have the same effects. Mock your children as they struggle and they will learn to never share their struggles with you. That goes for all relationships, really.
http://pebblechaser.wordpress.com/2014/01/07/destroying-your-childs-heart-one-fb-picture-at-a-time/
http://pebblechaser.wordpress.com/2014/01/07/destroying-your-childs-heart-one-fb-picture-at-a-time/
Moving Forward
I enjoy writing a fair amount and have done so in various stages of my life. It's calming and allows a person to express their feelings without requiring someone else to listen to them who may not even care about what stories are being told. Writing allows people to collect their thoughts and helps force us to consider what's on our minds. It also allows us the opportunity to go back and reflect over how we were 10 yrs ago or what was bothering us 6 months ago, or even how foolish we were last week. Hindsight and reflection can change our perspective on how we move forward in life, and that's really what we ought to be doing every day- take some time to reflect by ourselves and then apply what we've learned.
In the past I've usually written in such a way that either no one would be able to read it or I made myself anonymous so no one I knew would know it was me writing. That allowed me to feel free in expressing myself without worrying what others may say or how their opinions might affect me, but I've realized that limits what I can ultimately get out of writing. A couple people close to me have pointed out numerous times that I'm a very private person. And I am, in many ways. I like sharing what I like to share and if I ever feel threatened by someone not wanting to know or care about what I'm saying, or that the person won't understand and will judge me for what I say then I simply keep that to myself. Usually. It can be quite difficult at times feeling like you can't share what's important to you, or how you're struggling, with the most important people you love and value. It all comes at a price though. By being overly private, people begin to stop asking about personal things. They stop caring, possibly so they don't feel responsible for the decisions you make. It's a heavy price to pay once you actually feel open to sharing with and trusting them.
What I've come to realize is that I need more accountability in my life and I need to be able to openly express myself. I've held so much in over the years and I regret it taking so long for me to feel this open to sharing my life with others. Some of the people I'm closest to or love may find my openness and honesty to be too much. They may criticize me or leave me, and I'm finally at a point that I feel I'm not responsible for their actions and will survive without them if that's what they choose. My heart has also been changing over the last year and there are some people I either need to reconcile with or remove from my life completely. I don't know how I'll deal with that yet, but I'm preparing myself.
The main purpose for creating this new blog is to keep me moving forward. I invite those who read it to continue with me on my journey. Let's enjoy the ride.
- An Adventurous Soul
In the past I've usually written in such a way that either no one would be able to read it or I made myself anonymous so no one I knew would know it was me writing. That allowed me to feel free in expressing myself without worrying what others may say or how their opinions might affect me, but I've realized that limits what I can ultimately get out of writing. A couple people close to me have pointed out numerous times that I'm a very private person. And I am, in many ways. I like sharing what I like to share and if I ever feel threatened by someone not wanting to know or care about what I'm saying, or that the person won't understand and will judge me for what I say then I simply keep that to myself. Usually. It can be quite difficult at times feeling like you can't share what's important to you, or how you're struggling, with the most important people you love and value. It all comes at a price though. By being overly private, people begin to stop asking about personal things. They stop caring, possibly so they don't feel responsible for the decisions you make. It's a heavy price to pay once you actually feel open to sharing with and trusting them.
What I've come to realize is that I need more accountability in my life and I need to be able to openly express myself. I've held so much in over the years and I regret it taking so long for me to feel this open to sharing my life with others. Some of the people I'm closest to or love may find my openness and honesty to be too much. They may criticize me or leave me, and I'm finally at a point that I feel I'm not responsible for their actions and will survive without them if that's what they choose. My heart has also been changing over the last year and there are some people I either need to reconcile with or remove from my life completely. I don't know how I'll deal with that yet, but I'm preparing myself.
The main purpose for creating this new blog is to keep me moving forward. I invite those who read it to continue with me on my journey. Let's enjoy the ride.
- An Adventurous Soul
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